To be responsible for our lives, we need to understand how the feelings, body and mind are connected and how our psyche works. Before you start using these tools, we recommend that you read all the articles under all the buttons above. 

This way you can get an understanding of how we see the picture of our emotional, mental and physical landscape. We also recommend the CD, "The inner child".

The best way is to start using the tools when an unpleasant feeling occurs in your daily life. This may be a challenge, but believe us, it is the door openers. Simply realize, that your feelings are only yours! Know, that your wounds and subconscious thoughts have co-created the situations for you to see what is inside of you. This is a new way to approach life. See it as a sport, a competition with yourself.  There may be a situation at your working place, a conflict within the family or simply uncomfortable thoughts and emotions that constantly return.

When we understand that things happening to us that trigger our emotions are created by our own subconscious thoughts, we understand that those situations show us the way to our inner landscape.  We can find situations that happened long ago because we carry the memory in our cells, even if we have forgotten with our conscious mind.  The work is incredibly exciting... You won't need for detective stories anymore!

First position - here and now

The first thing you need to do, is to sit down and feel the emotion. Recognize what you feel and put it in words: I accept that I feel... Accept everything you feel. Say it in many ways, and you will discover that some ways hit better than others. Be honest with yourself and do this thoroughly with everything you feel. You see, when you sit down to do this, more emotions might show up. If they are painful, none of them serve you carry. They come to the surface when you give yourself time to allow yourself to feel..

As you accept your emotions you might start getting pictures from memories in your mind. You might start seeing how this pattern that you are unveiling is creating situations in your life, by seeing a row of situations. We call them parallels.

Suddenly you might remember a painful childhood memory. You see and know immediately that you have come to the roots of these particular feelings, the first wound that needs to be healed. Go there, be in that present and be fully the one you were then.

If you don't remember any specific, but still have those feelings, you can use a pendulum for help. Bring your feelings from the present along and ask your higher consciousness for help. Use your intuition. Read more on the button, "Finding the memory".

Second position,  accepting when it happened

Be in the memory and accept all your feelings by saying it out loud, if you can. That works the best. Remember you need to accept the feelings, not the situation! The more thoroughly the better. Are there things you need to realize that you have not been willing to because it was to painful? Be honest with yourself!

The basic is to say:  I accept that I feel... and then all the feelings. This is the sentence we recommend to use. It is NOT enough, just to feel it or to list them. You have to use the word accept or a similar word that works for you for each f the emotion coming up. You even need to say what you feel the way you feel. Say things in different ways until you hit the feeling fully and repeat it until you it fades. (If it is very painful so that you cannot stop crying, please take a break and let your energy system work for you a while. You calm down and when you go back to the situation, you will feel that the pain has let go.

Many of the feelings might be rather complicated, so take your time. The sentences may get 2 and 3 links, for example: I accept that I feel a deep grief because I feel unworthy. Or I accept that I feel ashamed that I am not able to take responsibility. All variations of feelings are hidden inside of us! You need to find your combinations and unlock the codes of your life!

Third position, comforting the inner child (or adult)

When you feel that you have emptied yourself, feeling calmer, move into this position: Be the one you are today and see yourself from outside, as if you are in the picture. Sit down with yourself. Take yourself on the lap or hold your arms around you. Empty the space by removing the people involved and create a place to sit down if there isn't one already. You are the master of your life! This works for real. Be then and there fully.

Say to yourself: I love you just the way you are. I love you, even if you feel sad.... I love you even if you feel that you aren't good enough, even if you want to die... and so on.
(say the things you really felt).
Take time to say all the loving things you can, that the little (or former) you needs to hear. Whisper in his/her ear: I am proud of you, it is OK. You ARE pure love. You just had to try out something else. You are made of love, my wonderful ... use your name!

If you haven't got in contact with your inner child's emotions before, you do it now. If you in this posision start crying, you need to go back to the first position to accept all the feelings coming up. Very often, when we see ourselves from outside, our empathy is awakened and we really get to the depth of our being. We warmly recommend to do this. This is what really heals your wounds!

Fourth position, forgiveness

When you feel that you have accepted all the feelings and you feel calmer, there might still be a feeling of unease...? You always need to forgive or/and ask of forgiveness.
In most cases, the very first you need is to forgive yourself. Our culture didn't teach us to take care of ourselves. Feel and think through. Be in the memory whilst doing all the forgiving. At the same time, bring your mature you, reasonable you. This is necessary.

Bring in the persons in your story one by one and say out loud what you feel, without blaming. (If you blame, you need to go back to accept your need to blame and forgive yourself. Is there still guilt in you that make you do that?) Tell them that you forgive them because you see that they carry their own baggage from their own childhood and that you understand that their wounds made them do what they did.

Know, that everybody do the best they can according their belief systems and baggage. That is very important. Know that everybody is on their path in the great school of life. All have different baggage and upbringing. We don't know what the others feel or think. We know, however, that they are a part of the same huge, organism that we are. When we all start thinking differently, everybody will take care of themselves, giving each other freedom...........!

By starting taking responsibility for our feelings, forgiving and setting free ourselves and others we start a very huge and important development for the entire humanity. The more people who see this, the more we create a wonderful community together.