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These tools are based on studies of the nature of the Life force.  Whatever we do, we are accepted, forgiven and loved... every day we wake up to a clean slate.  In every moment, you are invited to let go of the pain.  
We are never judged by the life force... it continues to let Life unfold, whatever we choose to do.

It is up to every one of us to use our free will to dispose the energy available for us from the life force. The life force that is flowing through everything alive in creation makes our hearts beat, our lungs breathe, it makes the gras grow... All the time we have the choice weather we want to live in joy and love or in pain and fear. However, to let go of pain and fear we need to understand the human psyche.

Our nature is to feel good, so we always have the tendency to push painful emotions away. The true nature of our soul is love and joy. We only want to feel good, don't we? So we suppress our feelings when painful situations occur in our lives. We try to cope the best we can... many of us goes on as if nothing happened. However, those feelings that we push aside doesn't leave us. We push them into our subconscious. They are the wounds of your souls.

The nature of our soul is like small children. Our soul has no logic reasoning. The hidden wounds creates "rules" inside that keeps repeating the pain, like it's the way it's supposed to be! They create belief systems that form our lives.
Thus, the emotions being triggered in our daily lives are the 'indicator lamps', blinking to tell us what is hidden inside.  Our feelings is the language of the soul.

Willingness to see
In most cultures we have been taught to pull ourselves together, not to cry and to suppress feelings. "Don't be emotional!" Have you heard that?  Well, time has come to be emotional!  What is needed to create a world in harmony: To let go of the emotional pain to stop blaming each other, we need to learn how to see what is hidden in our own subconscious.
The way we have experienced to be the most effective, is to accept whatever we feel.  It is very important to realize that our feelings are our own, whoever caused them. It does not mean that we need to express our emotions to those who cause them! The usual and natural way is to blame the situation or the people who cause the anger, sadness etc. - But those people cannot dissolve what is stuck inside you when you feel pain! Only YOU can accept, forgive and let go of what is in your emotional baggage. We can only let go of what we are willing to realize.

Therefore, the situations that trigger your feelings are the gold mines in your life!  When you are angry, irritated, sad or feel guilt... stop and accept exactly what you feel instead of blaming the person or situation that caused the emotion.  They show something you once suppressed because it was too painful to feel. The situation is a gift to you to see yourself.

In most cases it is necessary to search for what is behind your reaction. To find the root in the childhood, youth or in a former lifetime is very exciting when you know how to deal with it!  Your life becomes like a detective story! The buttons above will help you on your research journey to find your hidden emotions and accept them as thoroughly as possible.

Comfort and love
We consist of unconditional love because the life force giving Life transforms itself into all the energy forms that we are.  We do not need to be perfect! The life force allows everything to unfold, without judging. It IS acceptance and forgiveness!  It is we who have the tendency to criticize ourselves and each other.

When you start accepting and loving yourself, you can be whole as a person.  When you are accepting the painful feelings, you have, "turned the knife" in the wound to make it bleed... the wounds need to bleed to be cleansed.. you need to empty yourself. Let your tears flow if you have tears! The forgiveness makes the wound start growing... the love for yourself heals your soul. 
In most of the situations when I counsel people to work with themselves, I recommend them to imagine that they are back in the situation, to take themselves on the lap, if it is a childhood memory... or as a close "friendship situation", if they are adults... make the situation as real as possible and give all the comfort, understanding and love that you are able to, from the one you are NOW.  Then, when the one you were is happy and secure, ask him or her if they want to live in your heart.  If that is OK, you can go on.   more

Forgiving dissolves what we are carrying
When we have accepted all the feelings that come up in a memory, we need to forgive both ourselves and those involved in the situation.  Sometimes we even need to forgive what we have felt in a situation because we blame ourselves for the anger and hatred hidden deep inside.
We also need to think through whether we need to ask somebody of forgiveness. You don't need to go to the person to forgive, if that is difficult. You can sit down, close your eyes and see the person in front of you whilst speaking to him/her. When you really mean it, you dissolve the pain in you. If you want them to forgive you, the best is to go to the person to ask of forgiveness. This works for those who have passed over too. What is important is that you mean it.

To be able to forgive in difficult situations. it is necessary to feel what it was like there and then... and at the same time be the person that you are now. To do this in a good way, I recommend  to use the "Inner child technique". Going into the picture might get many more feelings come up. Then you need to go back to the acceptance again.
You need to see that the person who hurt you or offended you was carrying his/her baggage that made him do what he did. See, that all human beings are on a journey through life, and that you don't know what the others have in their baggage... It is always our baggage of pain that makes us do nasty things to others.. Try this perspective when you find it hard to forgive!

Letting go means putting behind
Sometimes it's enough to accept and forgive and the pain dissolves. Nevertheless, it's necessary to look back to feel if the pain is gone. You need to be willing to let go!  We sometimes need to make an active decision to let go of the feelings and thoughts about the situation, to put it behind us. If you aren't willing, there is probably more to accept and forgive... or there is another memory that created similar emotions in you that is waiting to be released.

New loving intentions
When coming to the end of a release work like this, you need to state to yourself that you ARE love. (It's the nature of the life force, so it's our true nature also.) Repeat to yourself again and again that you ARE love.. Fill your cells with love until you really feel it it true. You fill inn the light particles in your soul energy so that you heal your soul.

After working through our emotions by accepting, forgiving and letting go, we need to state to ourselves how we want our life to be. The best is to fully see our life how we want it to be and state all the things you want as if it is like this already. Include your feelings and imagine that this is the way it is. Be grateful.

Do this every time you have worked through your emotions and you create your life anew, day by day.